Happy Monday! I hope you all had a great weekend. Today I’m sharing my perspective on happiness which has been something weighing heavy on my mind lately.
Social media is great for helping us stay connected with old friends and finding new friends with similar hobbies and interests. Instagram and Pinterest in particular are filled with beautifully edited photos that we use for inspiration. Everyday our brains are flooded with these attractive images and we begin to believe them as reality.
But there is so much more behind a photo that we don’t see. For every one photo that is posted there are probably upwards of 20 outtakes that will never be seen. There are people with real feelings, insecurities and emotions that you may never see or understand. While what we as outsiders see are beautiful, seemingly perfect images – we don’t see the pain and imperfection that often goes along with them.
It is easy to look up to people we see on the internet and view their lives as perfect but the truth is, we all struggle. Everyone is facing their own battles. Comparison is the greatest kill joy of all. All we can be is ourselves and constantly change and evolve to be a better version of who we already are.
In my younger years I was so consumed with how I looked and what others thought of me and it was all just a vicious cycle. I thought that if I looked a certain way or acted a certain way that others would like me more. While that may be true, others liking you for something you are not more won’t make you like yourself more. “Remember, being yourself is the only way to find out who truly cares and loves you for you” (thegoodvibe.co)
In 2014 I decided to leave a life of doing what I was “supposed to do” behind and start doing what I wanted to do. It was a strange adjustment at first but it was an incredibly liberating feeling. Since then I’ve built a life that I love and never feel the need to escape from yet my life is still far from perfect. But what we also need to accept is that perfect isn’t real and it probably isn’t any fun either. Knowing that I am living a life with the objective of being happy as opposed to pleasing others and being liked I feel so much more at peace with myself and fulfilled.
You only have one life to live, and at the end of the day all that will be left are your memories. Things will never make you happy. Trying to be someone you’re not will never make you happy. Comparing your life to someone else’s will never make you happy. Being your true, authentic, quirky self and embracing yourself for who you are and accepting what you are not will.